A Successful Marriage

You are about to tie the knot and, of course, you want a successful marriage, but have you thought about specific steps you can take to ensure long happy years spent with the one you love? Here are a few thoughts that I think couples should incorporate into their own relationship.

1. Communication

In a successful marriage both husband and wife understand where the other stands on certain issues within the marriage, and are considerate of each other's feelings. They don’t let matters pile up on the back burner to cause unneeded resentment and animosity later; instead they discuss issues in a calm appropriate manner when they come up.

2. Acceptance

Accepting one another is very important if you want a happy and satisfying marriage. By accepting the person you married, you are less likely to bring up faults and bad habits and later use those faults against them. True acceptance is to love the person you married unconditionally.

3. Trust

Couples who trust each other have more personal freedom within their marriage. There are no jealousy issues or deceitful practices causing marital conflict. If you don’t trust your spouse, maybe it is because you don’t trust yourself.

4. Giving

All good marriages understand the aspects of the give and take relationship. The selfless attitude of wanting the best for your spouse is what real love is all about. When you learn to give of yourself without wanting anything in return, you are actually giving something to yourself because goodness and giving will come back to you.

5. Respect

If you want your marriage to grow and be successful, you have to respect the person you married. The more you value your spouse, and make them feel good about who they are, the more they will respect you for who you are. God gave you to each other, so cherish each and every day with what God has blessed you.

6. Attitude

You need to have a healthy attitude about yourself for a successful marriage. This is what allows you to be free to give of yourself and to be accepting of each other. If you have a low self-image, or you have not given up a negative past, or you are ensnared within an addiction, etc, these things will keep you from loving wholly. First, take care of you, and then you can be a better marriage partner.

7. Foundation

If your marriage makes use of the characteristics above then it is supported by God’s spiritual foundation. God is the one who gives us the gifts of real love. Only through Him are we made complete to love others freely.

Jesus said, “Why do you call me Lord, Lord, and not do what I say? I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice. He is like a man who building a house dug down deep and laid the foundation on rock. When a flood came the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built. But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete.” (Luke 6:46-49)

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